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How to Overcome Body Image Issues When Dating

Updated: Oct 3, 2018


What Do You See?

Women see their bodies as though they are looking at a mirror with a 3000-watt bulb.

How many times has a friend told you something they do not like about themselves?


Time to take a hard look at your low mileage and the scratches on the bumper and ask yourself what is one thing concerning your body that gets the most compliments?

Think of yourself as the most desirable person in the room. Confidence equals sexy.


No Butts About It: Body Image & Dating

Submitted by: Kathy King

Edited: by Jennifer Sittig


What Do You See?

Let me tell you a story. Mike was telling his friend Adam about a girl, Amy, he had dated and wanted to get them together. Mike described her by saying she is fun and outgoing. When Adam asked what she looked like, Mike’s response was "good looking, blonde with big boobs." Mike was partly right, according to Amy.


She was blonde, but thought of her #identity as having average size breasts, a large waist, and she feels it is a good thing she has hair to cover up that face. What did Adam think? Well, he thought she was blonde, good looking, and had “big boobs” just as Mike said. The moral of the story is men never see us as we see ourselves.

No Wasting Time

Why did Mike not see the big waist? Amy was a smart girl she knew her good features and never pointed out to Mike her bad ones. Women see their bodies as though they are looking at a mirror with a 3000-watt bulb. Put it this way, when you are trying to sell your car do you point out the scratches you have on the bumper or the low mileage?




Don’t Hate, Appreciate

How many times has a friend told you something they do not like about themselves? “I hate my crooked nose.” From that moment on all you see is the nose. You always thought she was pretty and you loved her eyes, but now you see the nose, the crooked nose. When you tell a man what you hate about yourself the same thing happens. You are not only drawing attention to it, but you may be complaining about the body feature he likes the most. To him and his friends you have the cutest butt. To you it should have a back up warning system attached to it to protect small children and animals.

Now That’s Sexy!

Time to take a hard look at your low mileage and the scratches on the bumper and ask yourself what is one thing concerning your body that gets the most compliments? Now apply the selling points learned and wrap it up in a big bow so it is the first thing everyone sees when you walk through the door. Think of yourself as the most desirable person in the room. Confidence equals sexy. Case in point, do you think a successful business man with comb-over is very attractive? Ah, no, but if you ask women about him they will tell you he is sexy. Why? Confidence. Knowing confidence is sexy, he uses this to sell himself.

What Next?

Remember to pump up the ego and leave the saddle baggage at home. Men have no idea the ankles are too big or the breasts are too small. All they know is that you are confident, sexy, and smart enough to never let him think any different. It is time to start selling yourself the same way. Every time you state what you do not like about yourself you draw attention to it.


Think of yourself as the most desirable person in the room. Confidence equals sexy.


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